For some couples it might be easy to plan date nights. Pick a night and do something.
If you find yourself in a situation like mine, planning takes some patience and a little bit of putting all the puzzle pieces in the correct place.
This is how I have planned for January Date Nights.
I start by printing out a calendar for January. It actually takes me awhile to print because I want to hold on to the December season as long as I can. I’m also a little old school but I like to write things down because it helps me remember. Once I have the calendar in front of me I write down everything and every possible thing we have going on. It usually involves basketball practice, ski racing and potential family ski days or nights. A few years I have had to include a ladies weekend (for me) and a coaches convention for Brad. Once I have this all written down I look for obvious date nights. Saturday nights are great! But there are usually a few weeks where a saturday night won’t work and this is where the creativity comes in. I look over our week again and then talk to Brad about where we can squeeze in a date. Sometimes this has been a lunch date or even an afternoon where we arrange play dates for all our kids.
Of course once we have the times figured out then we start to figure out our babysitting situation. Some years it has been very easy and other years we have had to be creative and have had to also beg a few family members to help out. Well, maybe not beg them but convince them that they need to spend some quality time with our kids.
After our babysitting situation is in order, then we think about what we can do with the time that we have found. I like to find something active, something creative, something relaxing, and maybe something nostalgic.
All to say, some times it isn’t easy, but your marriage IS important and this is a time to make a little sacrifice and effort to make these date nights happen.