January Date Nights 2019 is officially over. I always get a little sad but in some ways a little relieved.
As I reflect on this challenge there are a few lessons I have learned over the years.
- Date Nights take effort. A whole lot of effort. A lot of times it seems like too much effort. I played a lot of soccer growing up and as with any sport or really anything the only way to get better is to practice. And to put in effort. Was it always easy? No. It is similar to date nights and any relationship. You get out of it what you put into it. If I want a great marriage, I have to work at it and this means putting in a lot of effort when it comes to date nights. Most of the time I would rather spend a Saturday night at home on my couch watching TV and going to bed.
*This picture is from a lunch date we had in January. It was sunny and I didn’t have my sunglasses, because it is rarely sunny in January.
2. This is why marriage is hard. In our Facebook group we have over 200 members. This is a lot! Of those members a very small percentage actually make it to 5 dates in January. Some go on a few but there are some who don’t go on any during January. And that’s ok. There is nothing wrong with it. But this is a reminder to me as to why marriage can be so darn hard. If we can’t find time with each other just once a week then how can we expect everything to be so smooth. Yes, we get to be together when are all home but its different. There are so many things demanding our attention and often we are just trying to organize our family schedules. So, when we are having “issues” in our marriage I remind myself this is hard, but it is worth fighting for and worth putting in the extra effort. Because when it is the way it is supposed to be, it is truly wonderful to be hanging out with my very best friend.
Keep on putting in the effort! Happy dating!